Dead Men Can’t Defend Themselves

As believers in Jesus Christ, it is necessary to write to a higher standard than the secular media requires of us. If we want to write about someone who has hurt us personally, we need to think carefully about our words. It will be important to extend grace to the individual(s) as we write our story. Many times, we are not released to write about our experiences until the offending person has passed away.

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Most individuals are not entirely good or evil. They are, like us, a composite of both positive and negative traits. It would be easy to portray an offending individual in the darkest of terms and paint them with a brush entirely filled with black paint or in our case as writers, negative adjectives. People have also been shaped by the circumstances they have endured throughout the course of their lives. When we write about them, it is important to write about some of the extenuating circumstances they found themselves in.

When people have hurt us deeply, it may take us years to fully forgive them and be healed from the pain of their actions. Only because we have received the forgiveness that Christ offers, are we are able to extend that same forgiveness to the offending person. The further away from the negative experience we are, the easier it is to write about it from an objective viewpoint.

We need to remember that there are always two sides to any situation. When we portray the situation from our point of view, the offending person, if deceased, will not have the opportunity to provide an answer to our statements. There will be no one to speak in their defense, and even if their actions are indefensible, we should allow them a certain amount of latitude when sharing our story. It might seem impossible to do this, but I have found that through prayer, I am able to view them in a more compassionate light.

Remember, when writing publicly about those who have hurt us, we must reflect on the words we use. After all, dead men (or women, for that matter) can’t defend themselves!

Which Is The Greater Miracle?

pexels-photo-263337.jpegRecently my cousin received a kidney transplant. His kidneys had not functioned well for years but it finally came to the place where he needed dialysis. He sent a letter out letting people know he needed a kidney and many people volunteered to be a donor. Unfortunately everyone was rejected for one reason or another. Finally, he transferred to another transplant center and they began the process  of reassessing his potential donors After a while, a new doctor thought he found the right match. It was my cousin’s wife who had been the first donor on the list, but had been rejected because of her allergies. Within a month, they were both in the hospital awaiting surgery. Both surgeries went well and they were both out of the hospital within a week.

I had prayed for my cousin for years, first to be healed by God of his kidney disease and then to find a donor that would be a match. I was hoping for instant miracle, one where God just touched him and his kidneys were healed. Instead he received a different kind of miracle, the kind where God used frail human beings to enact his will and bring healing through the medical process.

So I had to ask myself, “Which is the greater miracle” An instant healing performed with God’s dunamis power or one where He brought a new doctor to a new transplant center who was willing to accept a donor that had been previously rejected?” Both are miracles, but we stand amazed that when it seemed there was no answer that God brought one by human means.

I’ve come to the conclusion that however God works to provide an answer to prayer fits in the realm of the miraculous. Using a human to meet a need may not seem as spectacular as a miraculous healing, but the person used by God is as big as miracle as God showing up Himself to meet the need.