I have a good friend who is a Christian Counselor. We were talking about how many times we think that changing our circumstances, i.e. job, spouse or location will make us happier. She said, “We always have to remember: You’re taking yourself with you.”
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I’ve thought about those words a lot. If I am unhappy in a certain situation in my life, my natural tendency is to think, “If only _______ was different.” I only need to fill in the blank. Would that blank be: my job, my kids, my spouse, my house, my car? That certainly depends on what problem I am facing. If only….
My friend made me realize that the first person I need to question anytime I am unhappy with a situation is myself. What is my response to what I am going through? Am I contributing to the problem? Is there something in me that is causing the problem? Am I just plain discontented with my circumstances and refusing to be thankful and content where I am?
Those are hard questions, but real ones that we all have to think about when we are evaluating our circumstances and our discontentment or unhappiness. Who is the main contributor to our problems? Not always, but many times it is really ourselves. We are the ones holding onto a bad attitude or an intractable position. Changing our circumstances is not really going to make us any happier…after all, we will just be taking ourselves with us!